Matt and I went to the Dr. yesterday for a follow up appointment to ask questions about what could have gone wrong. We asked about any type of testing that could be done to see if Matt and i are even compatible, in the baby making sense. There is a blood test but it is quite pricey and even then if it does show something genetic the Dr. does not recommend trying to test the frozen embryos that we have because the process could be damaging to the embryos. Also if it does show something it does not mean that the embryos would not produce a healthy baby. If the blood test does not show anything, it still would not rule out the possibility of having another miscarriage. So Matt and I have chosen to not have the blood test done at this time. The Dr felt like there was not anything specific that caused the miscarriage because the first u/s showed the baby was measuring 2 weeks smaller then it should have. the heart rate was also slow (130), but a week later the heart rate was 172 and measuring only a week and a half behind. so we were hope full that the first u/s measurements were just off or that the baby was catching up. We know now that that was not the case. S was dx with a sub.chor.ionic hem.orage on Friday and started miscarrying on Sat. This was something that could not be prevented or stopped.
As for our next step we are still giving S and J some time to think about it more as she does not feel ready yet, and not sure if she ever will. This is really disappointing for Matt and I but we will not give up know matter what they decide. We will just move on to plan b. We certainly did not expect this to be a one time shot. I don't think we would have proceeded with everything if we only had 1 chance, it's a lot of time, energy and money to spend. Now we just wait, a little longer, as I will not wait forever, to see what our next step entails. I have never given up on what I want and I will just keep climbing this mountain called IF. Sometimes life can be scary but I have to look beyond those fears and trust that what is meant to happen will happen, just hoping its sooner rather then later!
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I admire your strength and positive attitude. Hang in there! Praying for you still.
Casey
Christy....I can't even begin to imagine the heartache you guys have endured. Life can just be so challenging at times and I am hoping and praying that you will soon be to the top of your mountain and ready for the easy climb down. You guys are always in my thoughts and prayers and we are here for anything!
Christy, I am sorry that I am just reading this, but it was better hearing from you in person anyway. :) You are one tough cookie! I have heard the phrase that, "In life, you can let your circumstances make you bitter or better." I know that you have always become better than before. I know (believe me) that it doesn't always seem worth it, but... I don't want to be bitter. Sometimes, life just stinks! One day.... we will see a reward for enduring through the hard times on earth. I wonder about that day. Love you girl! I'm wearing my necklace... what a great gift that was for me.
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